When to tell the boss that you are pregnant. I read this today and wanted to share it with everyone since this is a tough decision. Here’s some great advice. Follow the link for the full article.
Be up front and professional to avoid being placed on the ‘mommy track’
By Tara Weiss
Thurs., Aug. 7, 2008
Laura Stager couldn’t wait to share with her co-workers the news that she was pregnant. But once she did, a strange thing started happening: People who barely talked to her before the announcement started rubbing her belly; even more uncomfortable, colleagues ask her weekly how much she weighs.
Stager learned the best way to deal with these new realities is to be honest. For the weight question, she replies with something like, “I don’t think you’re supposed to ask that.” As for the touching, she tolerates it from her closest colleagues, but for others, she simply says, “hands off.”
These are the small issues that come with telling the office you’re expecting. But there are larger ones, too. Most co-workers will be thrilled, but some bosses won’t share the excitement, a possibility that causes some pregnant women to conceal their growing stomachs for as long as possible.
Women who worked hard to climb the corporate ladder worry the boss will put them on the “mommy track,” giving them less-challenging projects. This is of particular concern to women who are on a partnership track and need to demonstrate certain skills to advance. Others fear their manager will work them extra hard so they can do as much as possible before taking maternity leave.
But you can’t keep your pregnancy a secret forever, and it’s best to start planning early how you’ll transition to maternity leave. Most experts suggest telling the boss your news after the first trimester, a time when the risk for a miscarriage greatly decreases. The only time to tell the boss sooner would be if you’re experiencing a difficult pregnancy or severe morning sickness, and need to take time off from work. No matter what, tell the boss before other colleagues — it’s a sign of respect.
I was in NYC this week for Bebe au Lait to talk to the magazines and attending bloggers at a “press junket” of sorts for award winning baby products. I introduced them to the Bebe au Lait Simple line and had great discussions about what it means to be “eco”. It’s not just about buying organic, it’s also about reducing, re-using and recycling. To that end, I emphasized how these nursing covers are being multi-tasked by Bebe-au-Lait-Moms (and Dads!) worldwide: for nursing, pumping, sun shades, blankets and even changing mats. Now that’s eco. One product that does many things and is easily cleaned.
Here are pics from the event in case you ever wondered what it takes to pull this type of thing off. First, product was sent from our warehouse in California to my hotel in NYC where I packed the items into bags for the journalists to pick up at our “booth” (that’s my husband lending a hand, he’s a friend of Bebe). Then we loaded the bags into the boxes so they could be carried the two blocks to the event the next day (again, my husband did this–I carried the flowers and cupcakes). Speaking of cupcakes (those are Red Velvet from Magnolia bakery–perfection), we have found that the attendees at these events get so tired that there’s nothing better than having a sweet respite while listening to our information. Sometimes we call that a bribe
The rest of the pictures are the event itself and all of the action. It was really fun to be there to introduce the Simple line and see all of the other fun products now available for moms and babies. The 7 hours flew by and then we packed up, said our goodbyes, and headed home.
We are 19 employees strong now which sounds small to some, but huge to us! To celebrate and take a well deserved break, Claire and Ronnie (our owners), hosted a wine country tour and tasting. Even though we weren’t all “tasting” per se, the views, the time together and the gorgeous Northern California weather were incredible. Here are some photos to share with you, Savannah-Chanelle was the unofficial favorite. If you’re ever out this way be sure to visit and bring a picnic lunch.