It is so different the second time around when having children! I was much more relaxed in my pregnancy and felt less afraid of “what was going to happen”. You wonder what it will be like with having two children, everyone tells you it is not double the work but ten times the work…so far it just feels like double the work but she is only six months. We are still in the honeymoon period…she isn’t crawling yet – but she is close!
With my first daughter, you feel so proud and want them to be making all the milestones and early even! I wanted to make sure that she was crawling, walking, talking at all the appropriate times and even encouraged her to hit these marks. The second time around…it’s different! You now know that as soon as they are crawling/walking that the honeymoon will officially be over.
I am definitely proud of the baby but I can’t believe that she is almost crawling already…she has been getting on her hands and knees and scooting backwards for a couple of weeks now! Everyone told me that the second one would do everything sooner than her sister, I just didn’t realize how much sooner! I realized the other night that the reason she must be doing everything faster. One she is in love with her big sister already and is trying to mimic and two, I have had to put her down on the floor much sooner and for longer periods than I did with my eldest.
How you can feel so different about the same milestones with your children? The first one you want them to do everything right away and the second one you want them to slow down. I think this might be some good insight for me to be cautious in my parenting of them.
Do you find yourself parenting your children differently, not just by who they are but by their birth position?
I gained a lot of weight with my first daughter, I was put on bed rest for the last two and a half months and lost all will power and boredom took over and I ate. Now, for some reason I thought it would be different than “regular” weight and when the baby come out that the weight would just magically “fall off”. Did anyone just snort with laughter as they read that? You know where I am going with this – right? So, to my surprise, after she was born – I still had a HUGE stomach and it took a few months for it to eventually come down. (I also had some other issues with my uterus prolapsing but that is another post). So, for many months I lived in my maternity tops and stretch pants. Finally, I got sick of looking at myself in stretch pants, I thought about different ways I could complement my new and “working on improving” body.
These are the “must have” staples that I found for my closet:
1). Jeans – yes, I bought 3 sizes up but they didn’t have an elastic waist band…this was huge (pun probably intended)!
2). Hobo and flowing tops – they are/were fortunately in style and there are so many colors/designs, even if hobo isn’t your style you can make it work.
3). Shift dresses – the key is finding one that the neckline is low enough and just wear a cami/undershirt underneath for easier nursing access.
4). Mostly dark colors/black – this is my style by nature to wear mostly black but it definitely helps conceal.
The most important thing to remember is that you have just gone through the best and possibility hardest thing you will ever do. What you wear doesn’t really matter. But if you are like me, when you feel good/you look good and you feel good when you look good! Happy shopping!
Oh, one more thing – clothing swaps are great for this “inbetween” stage too. Plan one with your girlfriends and have them invite one person…make it into a party, you will be surprised how many clothes you can pull together!
With half marathon training in full swing, one of my favorite go-to lunches has quickly carried over into dinner. With daily workouts immediately following my full workday, I don’t have the time to prepare an elaborate meal once I get home and shower. Nor does my hunger grant me the patience… I’m usually too ravenous to wait for anything that takes over 10 minutes. Does this race to make a home cooked, hearty, and nutritious meal in minutes sound familiar?
My favorite meal of the moment consists of a large salad (I like baby field greens mixed with arugula which adds a spicy, nutty flavor) topped with good stuff like fruit (I switch off between slices of apple, mango, and pear), pre-shredded carrots, edamame, and onion drizzled with olive oil and vinegar. Sides include cottage cheese and either a sweet potato or these great little pizzas topped with spinach that I discovered from Trader Joes. They are delicious, 140 calories each, and since they are precooked they take approximately 5 minutes in the (toaster) oven.
Although sweet potatoes take approximately 45 minutes to bake, prepare them ahead of time for dinner and they take but a minute to reheat in the microwave. Or, if you’re home you can use my lunchtime method: I pop mine into the toaster oven at work approximately 45 minutes before I plan to take my lunch.
- Preheat oven to 425 degrees
- Rinse desired number of sweet potatoes under water. Pat dry.
- Take a fork and poke random holes all over the potatoes
- Set on tin foil in oven and bake for approximately 45 minutes. Bake time will vary by size
These are so easy to prepare, high in nutrients, and naturally flavorful (I don’t even add butter!) that they have become a staple in my diet. I am, however, considering experimenting with home baked sweet potato fries. Do you have a home baked sweet potato recipe I should try?
Have you ever been to one or hosted one? I was invited to one by a friend last year but was in that awful, first trimester, so tired and nauseous that I could hardly get through the day. The thought of trying to get dressed fancy and go to a party was too much! BUT, I really wished that I had gone and it sounded like an amazing party! She even did the red carpet leading up to her entry with “paparazzi” to take your picture while you struck a pose.
Since the Oscars are coming up this Sunday, February 27th (8/5P) on ABC, I thought it would be fun to brainstorm about throwing your own Oscar party!
First, have you seen all the movies that are up for a nomination? You can go here to get the complete list. And see how many of the movies you can see between now and Sunday – ready, go!
Now, we just need to figure out decorations, drinks, food and any additional entertainment!
Decorations: I talked about the “red carpet”, which you can use a plastic red tablecloth and then maybe some gold stars along the “carpet” or hanging from above. If you have a friend to photograph that will definitely set the mood.
The Oscars website has a great resource from what to serve to how to engage your party goers, think that the Oscar ballots are a must!
Black Swan: to be a touch ironic – Marble Cake
Inception: Three Kings Cake – your choice of what to “hide inside”
The King’s Speech: Bangers & Mash
The Social Network: Mini-pizzas
Winter’s Bone: Squirrel “chicken” wings
Here is a great resource for all things Oscar party!
Let us know if you host/go to an Oscar party and let us know your favorite part!